Concepts of Life

At some point in marriages...not all...the romance and zeal dissipates from the heart and soul of relationships. How this comes about varies as wide as the sky. Any man or woman married for any length of time with no love, love lost, or hurt due to circumstances such as finances, cheating, physical or verbal abuse can understand the emptiness that hangs heavy on the heart and mind.

If you think it's too late to retrieve the luster in any relationship, then the battle is already lost. Granted I am aware that anyone of sound mind wouldn't want to stay in an abusive relationship and at the same time, I am aware that many do just that...both men and women.

For the sake of keeping this without complexity, let's limit this to the non-abusive category.

First off, if you never want to lose that fresh feeling of a birthing relationship, it is so drastically important that both parties never lose sight of what brought this magic together in the first place. It is so easy to let others get caught up into your personal matters. We all do it because we need someone to talk to. Mind you not everyone will interfere or get in the way in such matters, but there for support.

It's important to see the signs early that things are taking on a different shape. You will be surprised how easily obstacles sneak in undetected and become entwined in the midst of a good, solid marriage. What are the signs? To name a few, lack of communication, lost desire to look pretty or handsome for your mate, children, work, wandering eyes...like I said, just to name a few.

I really envy those who are able to cling to that robust feeling in their marriage...it takes work and lots of it...but the rewards are endless.